First-Time First Mate: Driving

Heading out on our first ride the day we got our boat.

Driving a boat is exhilerating! Think Leo and Kate: “I’m the king of the world!” The salty spray of the water, navigating the waves, the bounce of the chop is always a fun adventure. The wildlife that you see is spectacular: playful dolphins, racing batefish, slow, sweet sea turtles, and massive manatees. Did I mention dolphins?

Dolphins down at Destin Harbor.
My spirit animal.

After about two months as a boat owner, my husband told me that I was looking more and more like an “Old Salt.”

Old what? The wife never wants to be “old” anything, but I figured this was a compliment. I have learned that term means “an experienced sailor.” I’ll take that. As a Florida girl, I have been on boats all my life, but we never owned one, so APG has been training me on all-things-boat. And I love it! From readying the dock lines to navigating waters, “old salt” is a name I’ll proudly wear. I have learned a great deal in the last few months as a new boater.

On Chocktawhatchee Bay right after we bought the boat. I have learned so much since that day!

After years of cruising up and down North Florida rivers, enjoying the flats down at St. Marks in Panacea with friends on their boats, and looking at getting a boat, we moved to Destin and decided to finally pull the trigger on buying our own. We had looked at fishing boats, deck boats, and pontoon boats over the years. APG grew up on boats and his family had boats, so he knows what he’s doing. We decided to go with the party barge. We love to entertain and have friends and family around, so that was our primary reason for going with a pontoon.

We’ve had our boat, now, for about 7 months. The best lesson I can tell new boaters or new first mates out there is this: listen to your captain.

It has been years since I handled a boat, and it was so weird driving our boat for the first time. Driving our pontoon is like driving a car in England (the wrong side of the car) in Jamaica (the wildest-driving country I have been to – and I have ridden on the autobahn in Deutschland) or another foreign country with no, or few, road rules. Now, there are rules to driving a boat, but people can be crazy, like some drivers, and ignore the rules. There are no traffic lines on the water, people. Various water craft will zoom up in front of you and cut you off at any given moment. They can be jerks…or ignorant. It’s up to you to know the rules of the water and pay attention at all times. You have to be on. Like surfing or paddle boarding – you’re in the ocean, and the ocean’s unpredictability is the only predictable thing about it.

While coming back into the channel, keep your boat between the channel markers where the channel is the deepest, and remember the phrase, “red, right, return.” Your red channel markers are always on the right when you are coming back in. By default, the green markers are on your left. Conversely, when you’re heading out of the channel, the green markers will be on your right. So, you have to understand the water you’re in. The first time I drove the intracoastal, we were heading from Santa Rosa Island/Okaloosa Island to Destin Harbor and Crab Island. I thought we were heading in because we had originally come from that direction, and I was confused because the red markers were on the wrong side…my left. Actually, we were heading out because the channel to the open ocean is by Destin Harbor. So, it’s good to really know the waters you’re in or have good maps and charts. You need to have the big picture. Thankfully, my hubby knows what he’s doing. I have a great captain and teacher.

The captain and the true first mate!

You always want to keep to the right, on the side of the channel marker you’re following. People go all wackadoo and cut you off and don’t follow the rules of boating, so you need to pay attention to your surroundings. Sail boats always have right-of-way. You have a motor, yield to the boat under sail. (Some sail boats do have motors, though, but always pay attention.)

Some channel markers may not be up in certain areas. Storms take them out, and if you’re in a less populated area, they might not be up. You may have a green and no red or visa versa. If you don’t see what you think you need, keep with the markers that are present. On the intracoastal near us, there are not always green markers; the bank/dock lines of houses are the obvious barrier and the water is very deep.

Watch out for those shipwrecks! Yes, where we put in on the Chocktawhatchee bay, there are a few boats that lost a fight with a storm or hurricane and have grown so many barnacles they could be the Flying Dutchman, complete with weird, fishy residents. And birds. So, don’t hit ’em. At least they’re visible. Back home in Apalachacola, we’re used to looking out for oyster beds. Those babies will tear up a boat, and they’re not as visible.

Right after we purchased our boat. We found a great deal on a four year old boat that hadn’t been used much. We looked at brand new boats, but it pays to glance at used boats, too!
Our first sundowner on Chocktawhatchee Bay the day we bought the boat.

A few months back, after a relaxing day on the water, APG suggested I drive the boat onto the trailor. What? Give me my ropes and let me tie off the boat…that’s my job. I was good at it.

Drive the boat onto the trailor? No way.

APG had more confidence in me than I had in myself. Did I mention boating can be great for your marriage? Talk about trust in your spouse. So, I went for it, totally relying on his confidence in me. We had calm waters and we were near our house on the bay – not at the harbor or closer to open water. He was right. (He usually is.) I was ready, and I did it. It wasn’t that difficult, either. Glad I have that skill under my belt.

Those are my few basic tips for other newbie boaters. Anyone else out there who is learning, keep your ears open and take direction, and soon you’ll be an old salt as well!

Smooth waters out near Okaloosa Island on the Intracoastal.

Happy Boating!

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3 Day Potty Training – New Adventures, New Town, New Year

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I am back. Since my last post, I have moved to a new town and we have a very new life on the Emerald Coast in Florida. My husband received a call from a recruiter and a great job opportunity with a really good company. We got the call in August, got the offer at the beginning of October, and after downsizing a 3 bdrm, 2 bath house with a full two car garage of storage and moving our family, we were in our new, albeit beautiful, but TWO bedroom apartment in 27 days. Whew. After more downsizing and the fun of the holiday season, I am back on my blog schedule. I wish I could say I’m organized enough to blog during extremely chaotic times, but that just ain’t true. I do continuously journal, however. So, I’ve missed you guys and I’m glad to be back.

wp_20170109_005And my first post on my first day back at it is on this whole 3-day potty training craze. We start today! I am home, for now, with my son. Before we moved, I worked full time and I had planned on doing the 3-day training a few months ago over a holiday weekend, but a little Cat 1 hurricane called Hermine hit us, and well, although I had still planned on potty training despite the hurricane, to the point that I went to Toys “R” Us to buy our Paw Patrol potty while everyone else was buying hurricane supplies (we were already stocked), the circumstances proved to be too much for me. So, here we are: a new home and town, a new year, and ready for a new phase of toddlerhood…and parenthood!

There are lots of sites that help with how to do this. You can even buy programs. I talked with friends about their experiences (thanks and shout out to my friend, Jonathan and my other friend, Blake) and read online. I like this article in Parenting magazine. What this article doesn’t include is that you should keep the potty with you in every room your in, which I learned from my friend Jonathan. That worked this morning until Mac was in his room, playing with his trains, and was all, “I don’t want to go potty, Mom! Take the potty out of my room!” I think he’ll be cool with it in the living room, since he hasn’t really noticed it. I can’t blame him. I wouldn’t want my potty by my bed, either. Also, you’re supposed to let your kid go for a month without underwear – only pants. That’s also not in this article, but is what I learned from friends. So, we’ll see how that goes.

The article says you’re supposed to take them or ask them to go every 15 minutes. My kid started looking at me like I had 3 heads. So, I backed off a little. He has put everything in the potty, before, so he’s used to the feeling, a little. I think he’s ready. He just turned 2 in October, and he started potty training at his former daycare before we left. We had a pretty good rhythm. He regressed a little when we moved over. Out of nowhere, he wouldn’t even try, and I couldn’t get him to. Hopefully this works. We’ll know in 3 days…and then another month. I am trying not to annoy him by having him constantly drink. I have Honest Kids juice boxes which are fun for him to drink, so I plan to use those to get more liquid into him.

wp_20170109_001I put him in this extra orange t-shirt I had as an extra shirt from when I made (ahem…threw together) my husband’s Halloween Tigger costume this year. I grabbed a sash I had for a “belt,” and he loves it! He looks like a brightly adorned Jesus or like he’s wearing a kimono, haha. The article suggests putting them in an oversized shirt to cover everything, but for easy access (no pulling down and pulling up, just going). I’d let him run around in his birthday suit, but it’s dead of winter and the coldest days we’ve had (yes, I know, we’re at the beach how cold can it get? But, we’re north Florida or LA – Lower Alabama). A little coverage helps.

One final tool that my friend Blake sent me is a fabulous potty training video geared toward toddlers. It’s helpful and teaches sign language and cute songs that Mac liked. It repeats and is a little annoying for adults, but it preps them for their new adventure. As an educational tool, I like it.

Have plenty of Clorox wipes on hand! I wipe the potty after each time he uses it. Also, if you can stay on tile, do it. If you’re like me and you have carpet (not my choice) Folex is a cleaner my mom told me about and you can find it at Lowe’s or Home Depot. It is awesome! For stains, every mom needs a bar of Fels-Naptha! Thanks to my longest and best friend Jennifer and SIL Kelly for that info. It gets out stains like nobody’s business!

Find a reward for when your child actually goes in the potty. We potty, wash hands, and he gets 2 or 3 marshmallows or Reece Pieces. However, that being said, the only way I could get Mac to try and sit on the potty this morning was by letting him eat his cheese toast in his pop up tent, per his request. He didn’t go, but he sat on the potty! So, whatever it takes…within reason. 🙂

Since I wrote this, he has gone twice. The longer shirt proves very helpful as it caught some of the urine and the rest went in the potty. So, he’s now in one of my oversized old t-shirts and the second shirt has stayed clean! Baby Steps.

Be good,

J.