That Kenny Chesney song, Don’t Blink, always makes me cry. I always change the station if I hear it on the radio.
From the time I was a little girl, I remember my dad would tell me how much he loved me. And I would say it back. And then he would say, “Janellen, I know you love me, but parents love their children in a way that’s different than any other kind of love. Someday…someday you’ll have your own kids, and you’ll understand.”
I wish he had lived to see me become a mom. I would tell him, now, “I get it, Dad. You were so right. Now I understand that love.”
Love is the most powerful force on the planet. Parental love is the most visceral.
I love hearing the words, “Wanna play,” come from my son. Sometimes I’m flat exhausted, sometimes there are dishes to be unloaded from the dishwasher, clothes to be folded, work to be done.
There will be a day when those words don’t come anymore. With our son, I believe that he’ll always love us and want to be with us, but in the natural and healthy course of life, other things will occupy him. And that’s okay.
So when I am unloading the dishwasher, I say, “Yes,” and he’ll wait for me to finish, but more recently, I’ve started to give him little jobs, a plastic bowl, wooden spoons to put away. If I’m working, he knows I need to finish, and he quietly plays in the same room. But then we play!
I believe it’s the important matters that should take precedence over the urgent. What do I mean? Thanks to my college minister, Bill Potts, I have always held this concept close to my heart. Someone will always be urgently knocking at your door, calling your phone, etc. And those urgent things will get done. However, your parents will also call. Your spouse will need to talk. Your child will want to play catch in the back yard, or need help with homework. Those are the important things because those are your relationships – your family. Those are the moments, where if you blink, you’ll miss them. And I think that is what that song is about with raising children: don’t blink. It’s a word of caution: don’t miss the important stuff. Building legos or playing dolls with your kid, especially when invited.
My mom always said, having a boy is finding tinker toys in your potpourri. There will be a day when the potpourri is perfect. When you don’t step on a stray LEGO. And you’ll miss it. So, don’t blink. Don’t miss the important things.